Deevas Asks: Are Nigerian Men Emotional, Over-Emotional Or Impassive?

Ntete is an interesting writer and story teller. We wish she will share more of her thoughts with us but we understand that she is occupied with work stuff.
When she sent me a question 'Are Nigerian men over-emotional?' I was shocked. I wanted to say did you mean to say Nigerian men are not emotional? Because as far as I can think, even when they are approaching you to ask you for a date these days, they show no emotions(My opinion). The put sensible decisions before emotional decisions.

Read Ntete's Finding Memo and let us know if you agree or disagree.


FINDING MEMO by Ntete Bassey Duke

A few weeks ago I met a guy at a work meeting, as an assistant there a few things I do on behalf of my boss and there are usually a follow up meetings. So this said guy met me on a Tuesday and by Saturday he told me he loved me. I laughed so hard the poor fellow turned red, he really did…… he is light skinned. 

Anyways, a few days later he complained that I never call him or send him messages if it wasn’t work related. That was when I got really irritated. My irritation grew as I had to meet with him subsequently. How does he expect me to take him seriously if we have not taken a slow natural progression to expected steps?     

Then I complained to my cousin who is of the strong opinion that Nigerian men are super emotional in the beginning of the relationship and during the ‘asking out' period. Once the dating/courting starts those emmo traits disappears. I thought she was over thinking it so I asked a few of my friends and they concur, most Nigerian men start off really sweet, sensitive and caring but that usually ends after a while. If that is the case how long will they put up with the pretense, isn’t it better for the girl to like you just for who you are?

I wonder why that is though? Could it be a supply and demand thing? As in Nigerian men think Nigerian women will date them if only they are sensitive and emotional.

I think it is nice when a guy calls or texts twice or three times in a day anything more and he become a nuisance and a pest. I particularly get annoyed when a when a guy calls me to find out if I’ve had lunch. 

Do girls really dig that ish? 

I think men should be aware of their emotions, but to overdo the sensitivity and love is another thing.  

I want to love a guy for who he really is not who he tried to be at first. We all have flaws and it takes time to know and love someone. So my advice to all the fellas out there, cut the over emotional crap *roman voice*